"The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall" ~ Nelson Mandela
How to get through a breakup and move on...
Breaking up is a hard thing to do, regardless whether you have been together a few months or many years. And it is hard for both, the one breaking up and the one who is left behind.
The person who wanted the break up feels guilty; because of the pain he/her will bring on the other person. The one who has been left feels the heartbreak and is wondering what went wrong. Getting through a break up is a long process and often both parts have problems to understand and accept that it is over. It is not easy to know how to get through a breakup without help. Read on and I'll give you some good tips...
I do speak out of own experience. In our case I was the one that left. For him it was a chock and he still have problems. For me, the feeling of guilt has been and still is the worst to handle. To hurt a person that loves and trust you and that you care much for is very hard and it does not make you feel very good about yourself.
With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
When you have shared your life with a man for 15 years and you suddenly are alone I guess it is normal to ask yourself if you did the right thing. It is not possible to know in beforehand how you will feel when you suddenly are alone. I left nearly 9 months ago. It was a very difficult decision and if he had not helped me I would probably not have been able to do it.
How to get through a breakup? Build up your self esteem!
I have been thinking how much easier it would have been if he did not love me so much but instead had been angry and not wanted to have anything to do with me. I found it so hard to think about how much I hurt him that I did everything to avoid those thoughts. Leaving him did not mean that I did not have any feelings for him. I will not get into details about why I left; all I can say is that it all had to do with my feelings and lack of self confidence, he did not do anything wrong. If I was going to give you ONE good advice on how to get through a breakup I think the answer is to work to build up your self confidence.
I have been able to come through these months because it has been necessary for me to work hard all the time. I have also found excuses for not thinking about it and simply pushed these thoughts away as it did hurt too much.
I had many days when I was thinking of going back but was never sure if that was the right solution. If I ever am to go back I want to be 100% sure I do the right thing. I would never want him to be hurt again.
When I finally decided that I had to take some time and just sit down and think things over I found that I was confused and unable to find out what I really wanted. I found that the best I could do was to forgive myself and work on my self esteem.
Again I started to search for information – about how to get through a breakup and build up your self confidence. I know that lack of self confidence is and has been the main reason to all my problems.
Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass… It’s about learning how to dance in the rain." ~ Vivian Greene
I did find some good tips and answers to my questions about how to get through a breakup. I will share these tips in my next blog post.
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